THE THEORY OF THE BOTTLE

"baby,i know sometimes it's gonna rain & baby can we make up now cos' i can't sleep through the pain..girl,i don't wanna go to bed mad at you and i don't want you to go to bed mad at me"

Inspiring words from one of my favourite artists ..'NEYO'.In his song 'mad' he tries to portray a couple who fight but make an effort towards resolving their issues before going to bed.

People with experience say make-up sex is the sweetest,well that one sef dey! A few lines up,he says 'what's even worse is we don't even remember why we are fighting'.

Most couples are so afraid to fight that they bottle up all their feelings[anger,frustration,disagreement,suspicion e.t.c] until eventual day when one final drop fills the bottle and causes it to tip over and spill all the contents.

Then,the fight moves from that final drop to all the content in the now 'broken bottle' and eventually forget all about what caused the fight in the 1st place[the final drop].

This,I call the 'THE THEORY OF THE BOTTLE'. ..The funny part is that it doesn't only apply to couple but with normal human interaction.We are so concerned with what other people will think of us that we bottle up fears,feelings e.t.c. just for it to break open in our faces in a seemingly smaller situation.

I think as a couple,you shouldn't be afraid to fight as it only gives you a greater knowledge of each other.Every fight should not be a journey ender but a filling station on your road to happiness/destiny.

Something about your babe/guy can't be known till you make a mistake.A guy got a pink top for his babe on her birthday[she hates pink],after she got it she said thanks.A lot later she said he knew nothing about her cos' if he did he would have known she hated pink and gotten her a blue top!

She didn't talk to him for sometime but they eventually resolved it,now cos of this fight,he'll never get her anything PINK..so there!...Resolving before going to bed is a different case and requires intense forgiveness.

Listening to 'solo' by Iyaz,'we used to be a team......now we separated in two',then he realises he doesn't want to go solo..Wat's the point? when you guys have already broken up!

......don't bottle it up,say it there and then so he wont get you a pink gown the next time..fights ignite the love but bottling up dampens the feelings and emotions...

.......SIGNED;JOANGEL....

matters of the heart_THE WILD LOVEberry

Sitting down on the sofa,watching t.v..ok..i was gonna write on 'mums' but something happened yesterday and that motivated this topic ..DATING & LOVE.. before i start talkin about the emotional shit that happened .u have to see this:

its been some time since we last spoke

this is gonna sound like a bad joke

but momma,i fell in LOVE again

its save to say i have a new girlfriend

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i mean she even cooks me pancakes

and alka seltzer when my tommy aches

if that ain't LOVE then i dont know what love is

we even got a secret handshake

and she loves the music that my band makes

i know am young but if i had to choose her or the sun

id be one nocturnal son of a gun

.....few weeks later,he breaks up with her and meets another girl...

it's been a while since we talked last and am tryin' hard not to talk fast

but that am finally thinkin' i may have found the one

kinda gurl that would make you wayy proud of your son[father rolls eyes]

i know you heard the last song about the girls that didnt last

but i promise this is on a whole new plane

i can by the way she says my name

i love it when she calls ma fone

she even got her very own ringtone

if that aint love then i dont know what love is[WTF?]

its gon' be along drive home but i know as soon as i arrive home

and i open the door, take off ma coat and throw ma bag on the floor

she'll be back in ma arms once more for sure

..he caught her in bed with another that day..now fancy that'...
.....now why those he love her??...

she's got a smile that would make the most senile

annoying old man bite his tongue

she's got eyes comparable to the sunrise[LIE!]

and it doesnt stop there

man i swear

she's got a porcelain skin of course she,s a ten

and now she's even got her own song

but movin' on

she's got the cutest laugh i ever heard

and we can be on the fone for like 3 hours

not sayin' one word[lmao]

and i would still cherish every moment

and when i start to build ma future, she's the main component

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now..this is an extract from the song 'cupid's chokehold' by 'gym class heroes'

That word 'love' has gone thru a lot in the hearts of teens,authors,adults and even artists we fan!!

..i broke up with a guy i used to love so much[or so i thought] ..this guy and I used to be so into each other when suddenly, I lost interest in the whole thing..dunno why

now u cant say we were in love,can you?..right now am secretely in love with another guy that i plan never to officially date..funny how i use the word LOVE ..huh??

ok! i know ma blog isnt a site to pour out all ma emotional bullshit[or is it?] but i can't help it!

..now am watching 'trace tv' and the song 'break your heart' by 'taio cruz' is on.."if you fall for me........am only gonna break your heart"..so what do you call that?..temporary love? love with a known near end? what?

These are the facts i learnt from ma relationships and that of ma fwends:

1] after sometime time they become relationsh!ts

2]don't date a thief with hope of changing him..trust me..he'll either steal from you or turn you to a thief

3]don't ever dream of marrying ur teen BF..NEVER EVER!!

4]calling you 24/7,buzzing you,constantly saying he LOVES you,visiting you all the time is NEVER love

5]the word LOVE has been replaced with words like jimmy choos,shoes,bags,shopping and SEX!

6]don't let appearances fool ya!

7]ok..cant think of anyother thing..but just want you to know no matter who you datin'...never give full trust and THINK OF YOURSELF FIRST .....

....I KNOW I SAID I WAS GON' RIGHT ABOUT ME IN MA 2ND BLOG POST..but nahhh..am way too important jhoorr o!!